Oh yes, I can clearly remember the first time I got hated on, it still stings! As you can see from the screenshot, that person really didn’t like my writing, whoops!
The first time I read this review it was like World War 3 in my mind, I think I even screamed out loud! After the initial anger I got depressed, how could someone say that about something I poured my heart into?
As I thought about it more, I really started to believe the review, it really feed into the doubts I had in the back of my mind. We all know those doubts are always there lurking at the surface, this negative review was just what my doubt needed to bring it all out.
Since this first negative review I have accumulated a few more haters and they love to tell me how much I stink. I get a few emails a week from haters calling me names and putting my work down.
I have pushed forward and learned a few lessons that I want to share with you today because you will come across haters as you chase your dreams. Rest assured that as you make progress on your dreams, the haters will come out of the woodwork!
You are better than what they tell you
As we chase our dreams and change our lives, all of our doubts and fears will surface like crazy and we tend to believe them. The haters will feed on that and confirm what the doubts are telling you.
Here’s the thing though: they’re WRONG! You are great, you’re amazing, you’re one of a kind and the only YOU in the world. The things that the haters are telling you just aren’t true.
Now understand something, not everyone will agree with you and your message, I get that. When I saw haters I’m talking about the ones that go out of their way to be a poopy head (yes I used that word).
You can’t listen to the haters because you just don’t have the time, you’re going to change this world if you keep pushing forward with those dreams.
If you listen, your dreams die
You know this but when you give into the haters, you get depressed and your dreams take a back seat. Even if you still work on your dream it’s just not the same, you lose some of that fire.
All you can do is do the best job you can and give your dreams everything you’ve got. If you have done that, then there is nothing a hater can say to you that should matter to you.
Realize that they will always be there just like your doubts but you can’t give in because your dreams are far too important.
My thank you letter
Thank you so much for your words, they were the motivation I needed to work even harder. When I read them, I knew I would prove you wrong if I gave it my all, so that’s what I did.
I realize putting others down makes you feel better but we have enough of that in the world already, how about giving it a rest? You’ll never get to me, I’ll never listen to you, my dreams are far too important then a few unkind words.
I stand here now fully living my life and my dreams and I owe part of it to you, so thank you. I will pray that one day you’ll see what I’ve done is totally possible for you too.
With all my gratefulness,
You may not be all the way there in your journey but I suggest you write a letter to your haters, why not even do it this weekend?
Writing a letter like this is fun but it will clearly helps you identify all the areas of doubt that a hater or yourself might prey on. It will give you some extra motivation to keep pushing forward.
You can frame it somewhere and keep it until that day when you’e fully living out your dream. Post it on your website then 🙂
Do you have any haters? What would YOU say to them?