If you have any siblings then I’m sure you’re very familiar with jealously, right?
Growing up with two brothers meant everyday was pretty much a competition, from the time we woke up until the time we went to bed! If one of us did something cool or great then the others would go all out to beat it.
I’d like to tell you that once I grew up I matured and got past that childish jealously but the truth is it’s always there in one form or another.
The sad thing is that even with some success I still get jealous and I know that it holds me back from my true potential.
So it’s time for a little honesty, do you struggle with jealously?
Look, I already know the answer and it’s yes because jealously is part of our nature but the thing that I want you to understand from this post is how much it holds you back.
As we make changes in our lives and chase dreams it’s natural to want to measure our progress. In our minds the way we measure this progress is to compare where we’re at to where others who are doing the same things we’re doing are at in their progress.
I know that many who read this blog are building their Platform as writers and speakers and other online endeavors. As you’re checking your progress you might check out other people’s blogs, and social media accounts.
You might check how many comments they have or how many social media shares they get. You might check how many social media friends and followers they have. You look at all these numbers and if they’re more than yours………….. You have to finish that sentence.
Naturally we have what I call “Dream Jealously.” You know what I’m talking about, you see their numbers and feel like you’re not making progress on your dream.
This applies to any dream, not just the online stuff. You work on your dream, you look at others progress and boom!
Open your eyes
Dream jealously is a form of pride. We want to be the center of attention, we want those friends, followers and social media shares.
One of many problems with looking at what other people are doing is that it takes away from your progress and gets you off course. You spend valuable time checking out what others are doing taking away from the time you can use to create amazing things that can help your dreams and other people’s lives.
You risk getting a little depressed which can cause you to put your dream on the back burner, you just won’t feel like working on them.
Have the right focus
My friend Chaka has told me something repeatedly as I’ve chased my dream: “Don’t worry about what anyone else is doing. You just do the best job you can at what you’re doing and they’ll be looking at you.” Tweet please
Like I said before, even with some success I still find myself comparing my Platform to other people’s but I’M DONE! With this post I’m vowing to you that I’m only looking at what I’m doing and trying to be the best I can be and help as many people as I can help.
My dream is to help as many people as I can realize and make their dreams a reality, my dream is to start a movement of people who don’t settle. With the responsibilities I have and starting this movement the jealously and comparing has to go, I just don’t have time for it anymore.
How about you?
Comparing yourself to other people can only hold you back from your dream. Are you ready to stop and give your dream and life your full attention? Focus on what you’re doing, focus on making your dream a reality.
Focus on your plan and focus on the steps and the action you’re taking. This is your year to make your dreams a reality, there has never been a better time!
Have you ever compared yourself or your dream to someone else? Do you have any tips to stop?
P.S. A couple of reminders:
These are the last few days to sign up for the launch team of my dream (my first published book). It won’t take much of your time, you’ll get some cools gifts and you’ll get to be a part of an amazing community of people who are making their dreams a reality. Details Here
Second, My friend Jeremy Jones and I are doing a FREE webinar on how to market anything online, this is a marketing 101 class that will give you a few tips and tricks to help your marketing efforts! Hope to see you there! Details Here!