I can clearly remember the pain in my right arm, it came out of nowhere, very strange. It was about 7 pm on a Thursday night when I got the call from my grandpa, I remember feeling his sorrow through the phone.
He’s 87-years-old and didn’t expect to out live his son. That Thursday night, my grandfather told me that my father had died. Even as I write those words, a year and a half later, tears are falling on my keyboard.
It’s crazy what you think you know in life. My parents divorced when I was young and the truth is, my father wasn’t in the picture. As I got older and eventually went off on my own, my father tried to establish a relationship with me.
The truth is I was bitter and didn’t let him get close. I thought I was “teaching him a lesson,” in the end, I was the one who learned one of the hardest lessons of my life. After I got that call from my grandfather, I sat there stunned.
I went through the next few days saying thank you to those that sent their condolences but inside I was numb, I didn’t know how to react. The funeral came and it hurt so bad, my arrogance, my need for revenge seem so stupid in the face of death.
He was dead, I couldn’t get back at him, I couldn’t teach him a lesson, I couldn’t forgive him. It was all over, there would be no more second chances. I lost any chance to ever reconcile. That night, it all came out.
I was sitting there, holding this card from the funeral and every once of liquid that I had in my body, came gushing out in tears. I cried for an hour straight, I just couldn’t believe he was gone.
You’ve heard the phrase “life is short,” we’ve heard it so much that it’s almost a clique. You really don’t fully understand what this means until you deal with the death of someone close to you.
What would you do if you were told you only had a certain amount of time to live? How would that change how you lived your life? Would you stay at a job you hated? Would you live a place you didn’t want to live in?
Would you let doubt and fear keep you from the life you truly want? I’m guessing probably not. I’m guessing everything that held you back in the past wouldn’t even be in the forefront of your mind anymore.
I’m guessing that you would treat each MINUTE as if they were the only ones you had left because they would be. No more wasted time, no more distractions, just doing all those things you’ve always wanted to do but let fear keep you from.
We are dying
Here’s something that we “get” but don’t truly understand: we do only have a certain amount of time. None of us will live forever, we all will die someday. When? Only our Lord knows but death is a certainty.
Why can’t we live like we’re dying?
Life really is short. I remember meeting my wife and here we are 15 years later with three big kids! Time truly flies. How much of my time so far on this earth has been wasted not truly living my life? The answer would probably shock me, the amount of time on the TV alone is scary.
Do I live everyday now like I’m dying? NO. This is easier said than done and it’s a daily fight but I’m determined to live a life of no regrets. I am aware of how precious time is and as much as possible I’m learning to live fully present. I’ve changed my mindset!
How are you living your life?
When you start to really understand what this means, things will change, priorities will change. All those doubts, fears and negative voices of others won’t seem as loud because you don’t have time to hear them.
I don’t know where you’re at in your life right now but I want to tell you from personal experience that living your dream life is possible. I’ve been where you’re at, I know exactly what you’re going through and I can vouch for the fact that there IS a way out.
You don’t need anymore information because there’s already a wealth of information that proves you can do this. If you have been hesitating or struggling, it’s time to realize that you’ll never get that time back.
Today is the day to take action, today is the day to start planning, today is the day to change the way you think about life, time and your dream. If you have already started down this road, today is the day to get refreshed, to get a fresh dose of inspiration and push even harder.
Life is short, it really is. How are you living like you’re dying? What specific actions have you taken since the beginning of this year?