It Sucks Getting Rejected

Posted on July 18th, 2014 by Kimanzi Constable

Before I get into todays post…. I accomplished a HUGE dream of mine this week. I’m now writing for the Huffington Post. This is my first article. Shares and comments are greatly appreciated 🙂

We’ve all dealt with rejection our whole lives. Whether it was not getting picked for the sports team or not getting that promotion you wanted. It especially hurts when you get rejected while building your online business.

IWhat's your why?n late 2011 I started to figure out a few things about building an online business. One strategy that worked (and still works) well was guest-posting.

You write an article for a website that has a strong following. In exchange for your great content the website owner lets you put three links back to your website. Typically it’s two links to your website and one link to one of your social media profiles.

The very first guest-post I sent out was to the Huffington Post. I wrote them a post about the everyday working man. Someone probably got the post and laughed.

After that I focused on websites I already read. I sent out a few posts to my hero’s only to get a kind rejection. The kind part helped but at the end of the day I was crushed.

Today I’ve guest-posted on over 30 websites. I’ve guest-posted for heroes like Michael Hyatt, Dan Miller, Jon Acuff, Jeff Goins, and many more. Guest-posting got this website 500,000 visitors in 2012 and over 6,000 email subscribers that year. The traffic is still coming from those guest-posts.

How did I go from getting rejected to landing these posts? There are three ways that I could have dealt with the rejection.  You have this choice also.

  1. 1.    Give up

I bet you didn’t expect that, right? You could decide the rejection is too much to deal with and give up. I truly hope you 10487276_648094328609341_715835182314485334_nnever choose to give up on a dream.

Giving up might be the easier option at times but it’s not the best option and you’ll miss out on an incredible life. I can’t tell you how amazing life is now. There are no words to describe it.

To wake up every day and experience true freedom is outstanding. Getting here, however, and dealing with that rejection, was almost a deal-breaker. At the end of the day I’m glad I didn’t give up and I know you will be too if you stick it out.

  1. 2.     Keep moving forward anyways

You will get rejected but tell yourself that you’re moving forward no matter how many times you get rejected. You don’t just say this and not mean it. Deep inside you truly believe it and live out that belief.

This is what I told myself when all those guest-posts were rejected. I licked my wounds and sent more posts anyway and some of them were accepted.

Make a commitment to yourself. Make that commitment public for accountability. Determine that no matter what happens, no matter how many times you get rejected, you’ll never give up. The world needs your message!

  1. 3.    Learn from the rejection 

I sent that guest-post that landed on Michael Hyatt’s blog to him four different times. Each time Michael was gracious enough to tell me what was wrong with the post.

Last week I sent a guest post to Jeff Goins that was rejected. I’ve guest posted for Jeff twice already so you would have thought I knew what I was doing.

After the rejection I went back and read the post and saw exactly where I went wrong. I had the same thing happen with a guest post I sent out to Jon Acuff two weeks ago.

I had become too dependent on my past experience and didn’t really write something for their blogs. I learned where I went wrong and rewrote them. After the rewrite Jon said he liked it and is running it on his blog! I am working on the post for Jeff now.

Learn where you could have improved. Learn where you can work harder and do it. Make it better and keep going forward. In the online world rewrite that guest post.

Create a new freebie to get people to sign up for your email list. Write better content for your email list. Work harder at building your presence on social media. Focus more on your book marketing efforts.

In whatever area you feel like you’ve experienced rejection work twice as hard to improve and get better. When you do you’ll see success and grow your online business to where it supports you.

Realize that even after you experience success you’ll still experience rejection. Click to tweet

In the end, perseverance wins and forces you to work at your best. Don’t take rejection personally or emotionally even though it’s hard not to. See it as a chance to get better.

Have you experienced rejection with your online business? How do you normally handle it? 

60 Responses

  1. Kent Julian says:

    SO GOOD, Kimanzi. Learn from you mess ups, rejections, and failures!

    I just had a big blunder this week. I’ve already learned a ton from it. Sometimes I wish there was an easier way, but when I do mess up…I defintiely don’t want to waste it by not learning from it.

  2. Great post Kimanzi. I have experienced rejection. I try and grow and keep on moving. Thoughts of stopping come to us all but just like you said I choose to move.

  3. Great Post. Congrats on the Hufington Post. You have put the work in and deserve your success.

  4. Excellent post. There have been several times I almost threw in the towel because of rejection, but I decided to keep moving forward. Thanks for the encouragement. You deserve all the great things that are happening for you.

  5. Dan Black says:

    Exciting news bro, proud of you! I’m learning slow steady progress toward my goals/dreams is key. I have to be realistic about how much I can do while working full time and being a family man:)

  6. Jenny Hester says:

    Kimanzi – This post is timely for me as I am beginning my journey of guest posting. Thanks for the tips.

  7. Gaye @ CalmHealthySexy says:

    Congratulations on the Huffington Post piece, Kimanzi. That is big time! How did that come about – did you just submit it to them?

    • Thanks Gaye. No. If you just submit it will get lost in the middle of a million submissions. I got in through a friend. As they say: it’s not what you know but who you know. I have a couple more good places coming up!

  8. Ida Smith says:

    Thanks for the good reminders. I can relate to the part about falling back on past experience rather than writing for the market. I did that once with a print magazine I’ve written for. I now make sure that my article lines up with the query I sent. Rejection is never easy but if we try to learn from it than hopefully those rejections will be fewer and farther between.
    Congratulations on getting you work in the Huffington Post.

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    I need to read this at least once a week… Thanks for the encouragement!

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