Kimanzi Constable

I Don’t Know What My Dream Is (Part 1)

Three years ago I reached that enough is enough moment and knew I had to change my life. For two weeks I told anyone who would listen that I was changing my life, my dream was to…….

I didn’t really know what my dream was but I knew I wanted to find out what it was and live it. After a couple of days of thinking, I was watching a reality show about event planners and was immediately intrigued.

They had the clip boards, they had the bluetooth’s, they were bossing everyone around, it looked very appealing to me. So that day on the couch I determined my dream was to be an event planner, yeah!

I got a chance to put this to the test right away because my sister was getting married and she asked me to plan the wedding (I know you’re cringing right now). It took three days into this experience for me to realize being an event planner wasn’t my dream.

No one listened or respected me as the event planner and I had no clue what I was doing. This wasn’t my dream but not because of the failure, it wasn’t my dream because I hadn’t taken the time to figure out what my dream really was.

Fast forward a year and I was convinced my dream was to be an author. I had always loved to write and had an idea for a book, so I wrote the book and self-published it. Finally, my dream was coming together.

You probably have read or heard my story somewhere, so you know the book flopped, only selling five copies in the first three months (three of those were to friends). It took that book flopping and a 19-year-old guy to help me really figure out what my dream is.

While writing is part of that dream, speaking, teaching, coaching and consulting are part of that dream, all of that feeds into my dream:

My dream is to help people stop settling, stop making excuses so that they can live the life of their dreams. So all the things I do are working towards and with that dream. The thing is that it took a while and figuring some things out about myself for me to truly realize my dream. (more…)

Posted on May 21st, 2013 by Kimanzi

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Kicking Doubt’s Butt!

I can clearly remember my first trip to go and speak at a conference, wow was I scared! The flight down was pretty cool, I got to tell people who I was a speaker and it felt good. The whole time I was able to ignore all the doubt that I had.

As I got closer to speaking, the doubt intensified, wow! I got up on that stage and saw all those eye’s on me and all the doubts came pouring out, I walked off of the stage. I did end up getting back on and I rocked (in my mind) the speech, it felt incredible afterwards.

Have you been there? Have you tried something only to be paralyzed by doubt? I already know the answer is yes, we all struggle with doubt at one point or another. So what’s the cure? I hate to say it but doubt will always be there in one form or another.

Forms of doubt

Doubt can come in all kinds of forms and recognizing it is one of the keys to making your dreams a reality:

The voices in your head: you know what voice I’m talking about, right? You want to make this change, you want to chase your dreams and that voice lists all the reasons why something won’t work out before you even start. This voice will always be there but you choose whether or not to listen to it, you have the power to tell that voice to shut up! (more…)

Posted on May 17th, 2013 by Kimanzi

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Living or Existing Media Tour

Well the book is officially out and people everywhere are helping spread the word about the book and more importantly, the message of the book. I want to send a HUGE thank you to anyone and everyone who has shared, I’m so honored!

I always get asked how you successfully launch a book: BE EVERYWHERE! Seriously, you have to get as much exposure for your book or product as possible.

Here are some of the places that the book and myself have been featured so far (in no particular order):

Official Press Release

Blog Posts:

48 Days by Dan Miller

Wisdom of a Fool by TC Avey

Jaredlatigo.com by Jared Latigo

Dan Black on Leadership by Dan Black

The Dream Job Program by Drew Tewell

Launch Your Creative Life by Melissa AuClair

RobSorbo.com by Rob Sorbo

Jon Stolpe Stretched by Jon Stolpe

Window on the World by Teressa Morris

Mommy Employed by Mary Thompson

Skip Prichard Leadership Insights by Skip Prichard

SparkVoice by David Sparks

The Daily Gallen by Tim Gallen

Intentional Today by Ngina Otiende

Ask Jeremy Jones by Jeremy Jones

Affluent Student by Paul McGuire

Chicago Now by Karen Putz

Joseph Lalonde Insights on Leadership by Joseph Lalonde

Leaving Conformity Coaching by Randy Crane

Under Candle Light by Amanda Volya

Interviews:

Journey to Success by Tom Cunningham

Mind Shift Radio by Stacy Emeri and Juanita “Sistah BigBonez” Warren

Finding Your Voice by Joel Boggess

Green Mango TV by Roy Opata Olende

Work You Enjoy by Adam Rico

Lincolnparks.com by Lincoln Parks

The Artist Suit Case by Kent Sanders

The Michael Dresser Show by Michael Dresser

Source of Wealth Show by Gwen Green

Creative Marketing Podcast by Jeremy Jones

Your Partner in Success Radio by Denise Griffitts

Jump Start Your Business Now Radio by Katrina Sawa

Mile Hi Radio by Deb Krier

WEBE Radio by Todd Weaver

Mid Day Conversations by Cyrus Webb

As you can see, I have been a little busy lately! There are more interviews and posts coming but I wanted to say a HUGE thank you again to all these amazing people!

Find out more about the book and the over $100 in bonuses here!

Posted on May 14th, 2013 by Kimanzi

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Realizing The New Reality

Last week I had the honor of sitting down with my grandfather and brother for lunch, the conversation was very interesting. My grandfather is 87 years old and he has seen some stuff in his time.

He talked about fighting in World War 2, he talked about our family’s heritage and coming to America. He talked about living through the Great Depression and how that changed his life.

He talked about the days of going to college, getting a degree in some area and landing a good paying job. You would work there for 30 to 40 years and retire with a sweet pension, wow! Can you imagine that?

Those days are over!

You don’t need to watch the news to know things have changed. In the last five years we have gone through some crazy stuff and it continues. Getting a degree these days doesn’t guarantee anything anymore. I have read stats that 75% of college graduates are not working in the field they got a degree in.

So if you’re living in the past and thinking the old system still works, then I hate to tell you that it’s going to be a rough reality check later down the line. The days of working 30 to 40 years for a company are over. There are always exceptions of course but companies like that are becoming fewer and fewer.

There is good news!

The good news that out of the ashes of the old system has arisen a whole new land of opportunity! Technology, the internet, and social media have completely changed the game.

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Posted on May 10th, 2013 by Kimanzi

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The Power of Relationships

Welcome to those visiting from the blog of Dan Miller and Skip Prichard, where I have the honor to guest post. If you like what you see, sign up for great content twice a week and get a couple of gifts.

I couldn’t believe it was happening, my dream was becoming a reality. I got to the bread truck and was eager to get done delivering as fast as humanly possible.

I had so many dreams and expectations, my book was officially being released to the world. The book came out that day and tanked, it continued to tank the next five three months.

I was depressed and tired of it all, I had some dark thoughts during this time and didn’t even look at a computer for two weeks. So what made the difference?

The amazing relationships in my life.

It was three friends (one of which is my brother), that were there for me during the best and worst of times. They told me life wasn’t over, they told me to get back up and figure it out. They are one of the main reasons I’m still pursuing my dreams.

Good (or bad) relationships can either make you or break you, they can be the key to success or lead you down the road to failure.

The new reality of relationships

Back in the day, we would form relationships with people that we met in person. In the new reality of social media and the internet, we form relationships in a brand new way. (more…)

Posted on May 7th, 2013 by Kimanzi

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The One Thing That Will Make Your Dream a Reality

We all have been there, right? If I just do this……… or maybe that…… The truth is we have to do this AND that to make our dreams/changes happen. If none of this is making sense, watch the video

Have you been guilty of looking for that “one thing?” Tell your story in the comments….

Posted on May 3rd, 2013 by Kimanzi

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9 Steps To Change Your Life

**Giveaway**

In honor of the book being officially released, I’m giving away a one hour of coaching with me. For your chance to win you must:

Share a link to the book page on any of your social media networks.
Comment on the post.

I will pick a few winners based off the comments!

Do you have a plan for your life? How’s the journey thus far?

Posted on May 1st, 2013 by Kimanzi

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Are You living or Existing?

Three years ago I would have laughed in your face if you had asked me that question. I would have responded by saying: “who cares!”

I had ZERO interest in chasing dreams and I definitely didn’t care about changing my life, I was

comfortable. I had a job/business that payed good enough, I had a bunch cool new toys.

I ate out whenever I wanted to and did all the “fun” stuff because I could afford it or so I thought! Tell me again, why would I want to change?

I can clearly remember the day when the illusion of the lie I had been living fell apart. Things had gotten so bad at home that my wife and I were separated, I was living with a friend.

My finances were out of control, I owed money to everybody and couldn’t even afford to live paycheck to paycheck. My job/business was falling apart and I was losing customers left and right.

I had lied to myself for so long that I just didn’t want to accept the truth, the lie was easier to swallow.

On a sunny May morning three years ago, everything came crashing down on my head at the same time. Things were so bad on this day that I fell on the floor and just started crying, it had been years since I cried.

For the next few months it was really rough, a couple of times I told myself it would be easier to commit suicide. I didn’t and praise the Lord for His grace, I knew that something had to give, I couldn’t keep going on existing anymore.

From here you know my story and about the journey I’ve taken the last three years. Life has been a complete 360 from what it was. (more…)

Posted on April 29th, 2013 by Kimanzi

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I’m Failing at…….Everything!

Doesn’t it just feel this way at times? With the craziness of life and all that we have to do, some things slip through the cracks.

As I embark on the next chapter of my life and my dreams, I’m finding it harder and harder to keep the right balance. So much so that I had to get a reality check and wrote a blog post about it.

As I work helping spread a message and starting a movement, it seems like some other area’s of my life are taking a hit. The other day I looked at my kids and realized they’re not babies anymore, I even have a teenager in my house!

That thought terrifies me because I wonder if the efforts I made as a parent are good enough. Does he get it? Did he see it in my life or will he take a path that I desperately ran away from?

If you were to walk into my office/bedroom you would shake your head, it’s a war zone! There are books, papers, passports, suitcases and all kinds of who knows what papers! I’m usually an organized person but by not paying attention, things have gotten out of hand.

Today I thought about all these things that are messed up in my life and I felt like a complete failure! I was starting to get depressed and rationalize things to myself when a thought hit me like a ton of bricks: shut up Kimanzi!

Yes, some things have fallen through the cracks but it’s not the end of the world. Why do we know this principle yet forget about it in those crazy moments? (more…)

Posted on April 26th, 2013 by Kimanzi

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This Is My Story

It may have been a little while since you heard it or maybe you never heard the whole thing. You may be new to my blog or new to me, so today I thought I’d share the story of this crazy journey over the last three years. This is my story and after you watch it, I want to hear YOURS!